Valentine’s Day. It’s here. While this day is a non-religious ‘holiday’ about love, it is really the litmus test for a guy’s personality. She’s watching. For some reason, Valentine’s Day is a highly emotional day, either in fits of rage or deeply in love. Most of it is about managing expectations. Don’t go over the top, but don’t take a mulligan. Here are some dos and don’ts for a successful Valentine’s Day:
1. Embrace that it’s Valentine’s Day. Sure – there is the theory that it’s a ‘Hallmark Holiday’, but if you are lucky enough to have a hot date, then you need to understand that there are some extra implied connotations. Be the guy that holds her hand through the night. Don’t be cheesy, but don’t be cynical.
2. Plan your night in advance. Any good restaurant will book up pretty quickly, and unless you want to share a $5 foot long from Subway, get on it. If all the restaurants are full, then plan on cooking her dinner at your place. She’ll notice the effort as much as she’ll recognize your amazing culinary skills.
3. Either way – dress the part. This is a night for you to look your best. Iron your shirt. Put on a tie. Polish your shoes. Shave. Trust that she will notice the extra effort. This day is about her, so go above and beyond.
4. Call your mother. She loved you before any other women in your life, and she deserves the gratitude.
5. (For the single folks): Guys night out. You’ll have no problem finding a table at the sports bar. Eat wings, drink beer, and enjoy time with the guys. This time next year, you could all be practicing 1-4 above. You never know.
1. When sending flowers, don’t send a computer printed stock message. There is nothing less personal than a ‘Happy Valentine’s Day’ printed on a stock card with a bunch of roses. Flowers are great, but the message will have a much more lasting effect. Two options – write the note yourself (if you are using a local florist), or write something catchy if you are using ProFlowers.com.
2. Don’t do guy stuff. This is not the night to bring her to an NBA game or to Supercross. Don’t go to dinner at a sports bar. You have a DVR, so record the game and watch it later. This is her night, so treat it as such.
3. Don’t get drunk. There is not much good that can come from her having to walk you home. Limit yourself to a couple drinks.
4. Don’t go on a first date. The pressure and mismanaged expectations would make this a very awkward and uncomfortable date. Even if you just met someone great – resist the urge. It’s not worth it. Wait until next weekend.
5. (For the single folks): Don’t call your ex. It’s not worth it. It screams desperation and there is NOTHING good that can come from it. You are better off.