The arrival of spring means it’s time for the arrival of wedding invitations. There is nothing like wedding season, for good and for bad. It’s a safe bet that you’ll be an attendee in a couple weddings, but you’ll be a guest in more than a few. There is a certain, unspoken protocol that goes into attending a wedding. Here at Onward Reserve, we want to help you wedding guests with some simple etiquette reminders:
1. RSVP. Remember that the couple that is doing you the honor of inviting you to their wedding is going through enormous amounts of stress in their wedding planning adventures. The number of attendees is down to a science, so you MUST RSVP as promptly as possible. 99 times out of 100 there will be a stamped and addressed envelope, so check your calendar and let them know that you will be there (or not). Also, let them know if you are bringing….
2. A Plus One. Your wedding date should be a carefully chosen partner for a very unique date. If you are taken, then it’s a no brainer. If you are a single guy, then give some thought to whom you’d like to bring. A couple of hints: first, don’t bring someone that you’ll have to babysit all night. If she doesn’t know anyone at the wedding except you, then you’ll have your hands full. Do consider bringing someone that is friends with at least some of the attendees. Don’t ask a girl that you just started dating, as it gives the wrong signal. Bottom line: if you are single, bring a fun girl. Fun girl = fun date.
3. Dress the Part. For God’s sake, please dress well. Get your best suit cleaned and your dress shirt pressed. Shine your shoes. Shave. Wear a great tie. You should present the best version of yourself on the newlywed’s big day. You are going to be in pictures that they look at for the rest of their lives, so don’t leave them with the memory of you in wrinkled khakis.
4. Bring a Gift. Every couple registers, but you aren’t required to bring a gift. That being the case, it’s not a very good message to send. If you aren’t into getting a gift, give the couple a $100 bill. Pull the bride and groom aside, and discreetly give it to them, and let them know that you want them to spend it on dinner one night on their honeymoon. It’s a very classy move, and they will remember the gesture.
5. Behavior. There is nothing wrong with having fun at the wedding, but don’t turn it into a Vince Vaughan/Owen Wilson-like affair. The best advice is to go with the flow. If the dance floor is getting a little rowdy, then feel free to take part, but don’t lead the pack. If the wedding is a somber affair, enjoy a couple drinks, and hit the road after they cut the cake. Speak to everyone, especially the bride and groom’s families. Don’t hang out at the bar and watch the one TV that is showing a game. Keep a drink in your date’s hand. Be a gentleman. It will pay off in the long run, because those that need to notice will.